Military Teen Toolkit

Military Teen Toolkit
Resources for Supporting Your Teen’s Mental Health

By: Chantel Bratcher, LPCMH

Military life can be exciting and adventurous, but it also comes with challenges, especially for teens who face frequent moves, deployments, and the stress of a parent serving in harm’s way. This toolkit offers tips for military parents to help their teens navigate these challenges and maintain good mental health.

Communication is Key

• Initiate Conversations: Don’t wait for your teen to “open up”. Regularly check in with them about their day, school, friends, and feelings.
• Active Listening: When your teen talks, truly listen. Put away distractions, avoid interrupting them, offer empathy, and ask clarifying questions.
• “I” Statements: Use “I” statements to express your concerns without sounding accusatory. For example, “I worry when you stay up so late” instead of “Why are you always up so late?”
• Respect Privacy: Respect your teen’s need for privacy but establish boundaries. Let them know you’re always available to talk.
• Deployment Discussions: Talk about deployments well before they happen. Address their worries about safety, missing friends, and managing household responsibilities.
• Deployment Traditions: Create routines or traditions to maintain connection during deployments. This could be a weekly video call, writing letters together, or sending a small care package each week.

Building Resilience

• Develop Routines: Establish consistent routines at home and school, even during deployments. This provides a sense of normalcy and stability.
• Encourage Exercise: Regular physical activity reduces stress, improves mood, and promotes healthy sleep patterns.
• Healthy Eating: Focus on providing nutritious meals and snacks to fuel your teen’s body and mind.
• Relaxation Techniques: Teach your teen relaxation techniques like deep breathing exercises, mindfulness meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation.
• Positive Coping Mechanisms: Help your teen develop healthy coping mechanisms like journaling, creative outlets, or spending time in nature.

Recognizing Signs of Trouble

• Emotional Changes: Be aware of sudden changes in mood like increased irritability, sadness, or anger.
• Behavioral Changes: Watch for social withdrawal, neglecting hobbies, or increased risk-taking behaviors.
• School Struggles: Pay attention to slipping grades, difficulty concentrating, or lack of motivation for schoolwork.
• Physical Changes: Notice changes in sleep patterns, energy levels, appetite, or self-care habits.
• Substance Abuse: Be aware of signs of drug or alcohol use, which can be a way of self-medicating.

Getting Help

• MFLC Program: The Military and Family Life Counseling (MFLC) program helps military families overcome challenges with free non-medical face-to-face support. Services are private and confidential with a few exceptions. Support is available at many installations and affiliated schools.
• Military OneSource: This program offers a variety of resources, including:
• 24/7 confidential counseling: Speak with a licensed therapist specializing in military families.
• Workshops and webinars: Learn about common challenges teens face and develop coping strategies.
• Online resources: Access articles, videos, and tools to support your teen’s well-being.
• Chaplain Services: Chaplains offer non-denominational emotional and spiritual support and can be a valuable resource during difficult times.
• Military Teen Support Groups: Connecting with other teens facing similar challenges can be a source of comfort and understanding. Talk to your teen’s school counselor or local military base about support groups.
• Mental Health Professionals: If your teen needs more comprehensive support, consider seeking help from a therapist specializing in adolescents or military families.

Additional Resources

• National Child Traumatic Stress Network: https://www.samhsa.gov/
• The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ (for LGBTQ+ youth)